Instinctively, letting go of control, especially amid an invisible threat, seems the most dangerous choice to make.
Life brings many opportunities for the ego to learn surrender–the current coronavirus virus pandemic being one of them.
My first reaction to unwelcome events in which I have no control is to resist them. I bury them in my subconscious where they fester and eventually work their way to the surface.
Say Yes to Life As It Is
But saying yes to life–no matter what it delivers– is an inner posture of nonresistance to life as it is.
We may feel resentment because the pandemic has violated our right to autonomy and security.
It’s natural to be anxious about our present jobs and the unknown as we clutch to what we’ve worked so hard to get.
I Think I Can, I Think I Can
Some of the high-achieving practice owners I’ve seen online are under the illusion that if they try hard enough, they can control their future.
Like the little train that keeps saying to itself, “I think I can, I think I can,” they slowly seduced themselves into thinking that telehealth, aggressive marketing, the government bailout, or business acrobatics is a way to escape hard times.
Even as the old familiar ways of doing therapy are falling apart, our instinct is to grab onto them, patch them together as a way of restoring a sense of security and control.
While these times of uncertainty feel like they are full of great peril, they are, in fact, times of great promise.
These are the moments when it is possible to change our fundamental orientation to reality.
Surrender Brings Freedom
They are invitations to surrender the dominance of our ego and its relentless desire for control. Saying yes to life leads to a dramatically different spirituality.
Surrender is simply an inner acceptance of what is.
There is nothing more difficult for humans than letting go of control. But there is also nothing more freeing.
I am amazed at some of my patients who have suffered tremendously and yet wouldn’t trade their former life for their present one. They were able to somehow welcome the pain into their lives for the good. They went through an inner transformation as they traveled through suffering.
Surrender is not resignation.
Resignation is giving up.
Surrender is accepting present realities.
You still work to keep yourself and others healthy, keep your business afloat, but your inner posture is different.
The pathway to inner transformation, such as this, is the path of surrender. How we relate to the larger-than-self horizon defines our spirituality and how we respond in times like these.
What ways have a desire for control cut you off from a life-giving connection to your larger Self?
PS- How are you doing? I’d love to hear back from you on what you are doing to accept life as it is.